En australsk sykepleier som heter Bronnie Ware jobbet i mange år med pasienter som skulle dø. Hun spurte pasientene om de hadde noe de angret på nå som de skulle dø og om de ville ha endret noe i livet deres. Hun skrev en bok om svarene hun fikk fra de som skulle dø: “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying”, og her er listen.
Selv jobber jeg mest med punkt 1 og 2. Jeg syns f.eks. det er vanskelig å vite hvordan jeg skal følge drømmene mine, når jeg ikke helt vet hva de er. Du har selv kanskje andre punkter som treffer deg mer.
- I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled.”
- I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
“This came from every male patient that I nursed. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”
- I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming.”
- I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”
- I wish that I had let myself be happier.
“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”
Inspirert fra: http://theviewinside.me/you-are-going-to-die/
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